To Make Boys More Like Girls
"Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created." Gen.5:2
From the beginning of time little boys have played games which parallel their inborn nature which God put there. They were given, in their creation, the inclination, the urge, the drive to protect, defend, provide for the more helpless around them, the women and children. Their protective nature also included the end result of their labors, their crops, tools, tent, location and stored up food. That natural drive took many forms, the good guys and the bad guys, cowboys and Indians, those in the fort and those attacking it, warring against the enemy, swords, bows and arrows, and later, guns. Those characteristics were inborn and were put there to secure their own lives and welfare, and those of the family, the village, the tribe and the nation.... civilization. Masculinity has played itself out throughout history and throughout the pages of the Bible in the form of wars, attacks, defense, and honing skills. It is the original reason for practice, shooting contests, sports contests and the male drive to survive victorious, preserve a family and the tribe, and live happily ever with the woman you love and your children. Women have their own special and equally important and balancing, natural, characteristics.
It was our Creator who designed and assigned these different qualities in men and women. But those of women are more peaceful, nourishing and yielding than those of men. Boys act them out fighting, running, and challenging, and will become positive assets if encouraged by mothers and guided by fathers. But when the father is not there ... a boy's chances of masculine integrity are narrow indeed.
So the Liberal Left, not believing in the God of the Bible, sees these masculine tendencies, driven by the inborn testosterone, as some kind of evil demon to be exorcised from young boys' nature instead of wisely channeling this natural, inborn gift of God. So they seek to force boys to become more like girls and thereby so twist, frustrate and fracture the nature of boys to become strong men, that they wreck the boys. It is kind of a Frankenstein like syndrome experiment and is resulting in a similar perversion of nature. RB
This from The Observer
The demise of our culture will result from the demise of its men if something isn’t changed quickly. Far too many men remain directionless, devastated and scared children.
Much has been said and written in recent years about the challenges of men and boys. A sampling of book titles includes:
- Why There Are No Good Men Left
- The Demise of Guys
- The End of Men, Why Boys Fail
- The End of Men, And The Rise of Women
- Boys Adrift
- Manning Up: How The Rise Of Women Has Turned Men Into Boys
A common theme is that men and boys have become increasingly confused about their identity and role in society. Kay Hymowitz, author of Manning Up, put it this way:
“It’s been an almost universal rule of civilization that whereas girls became women simply by reaching physical maturity, boys had to pass a test. They needed to demonstrate courage, physical prowess, or mastery of the necessary skills. The goal was to prove their competence as protectors of women and children; this was always their primary social role. Today, however, with women moving ahead in an advanced economy, provider husbands and fathers are now optional, and the character qualities men had needed to play their role—fortitude, stoicism, courage, fidelity—are obsolete and even a little embarrassing.”
It is the norm in Hollywood films, TV and cable shows, and even commercials to portray men as incompetent, immature, or self-absorbed. This underlying message has subtly and increasingly become the collective unconscious with devastating repercussions.
Academically, it is reported in the United States that:
- Girls outperform boys now at every level—from elementary school through graduate school.
- By eighth grade, only 20 percent of boys are adept in writing and 24 percent adept in reading.
- Young men’s SAT scores in 2011 were the lowest they’ve been in 40 years.
- According to the National Center for Education Statistics (NCES), boys are 30 percent more likely than girls to drop out of both high school and college.
- It is predicted that by 2016, women will earn 60 percent of bachelor’s and 63 percent of master’s degrees.
- Boys make up two-thirds of students in special education remedial programs.
Women deserve the increased success they are getting. They’ve been oppressed for far too long. They’re hungrier and more motivated than most men. And hopefully society will continue to allow them the increased equality they deserve.
However, this article’s focus is on helping the struggling and confused young man. Indeed, many young men have taken the adverse cues of society as an excuse to evade responsibility and never really grow up.
If you are a young man and you’re struggling, you are not alone. This article is intended to challenge you to rethink your entire approach to life. If applied, these habits will radically set you apart from the decaying norm.
The Desperate Cry Of America's Boys
FOX News
In response to this week’s school shooting in Parkland, Florida, a man named Michael Ian Black, whom I’ve never heard of but who’s apparently an actor and comedian,
invited a “conversation” on Twitter that began with the following statement: “Deeper even than the gun problem is this: boys are broken.”
This is an absolutely, 100 percent true statement.
Unfortunately, Black quickly veered off course. “Men don’t have the language to understand masculinity as anything other than some version of a caveman because no language exists...The language of masculinity is hopelessly entwined with sexuality, and the language of sexuality in hopelessly entwined with power, agency, and self-worth...To step outside those norms is to take a risk most of us are afraid to take. As a result, a lot of guys spend their lives terrified...We’re terrified of being viewed as something other than men. We know ourselves to be men, but don’t know how to be our whole selves. A lot of us (me included) either shut off or experience deep shame or rage. Or all three. Again: men are terrified.”
Mr. Black is not the first to attack masculinity and suggest it’s at the root of all evil. Indeed, the phrase ‘toxic masculinity’ has become boilerplate language in America.
It’s not a hard sell, either. After all, it
is boys and men who are typically to blame for violent acts of aggression. Ergo, testosterone—the defining hormone of masculinity—must be to blame. But testosterone has been around forever. School shootings have not.
Mr. Black is correct that boys are broken. But they're not broken as a result of being cavemen who haven’t “evolved” the way women have. They’re broken for another reason.
They are fatherless.
The solution to male violence is not to spout off drivel about the evils of masculinity. Masculinity, channeled well, is the reason assistant football coach Aaron Feis died this week. Feis shielded students from bullets by pushing them inside a classroom.
Broken homes, or homes without a physically and emotionally present mother and father, are the cause of most of society’s ills. “Unstable homes produce unstable children,”
writes Peter Hasson at The Federalist.
He adds, “On
CNN’s list of the “27 Deadliest Mass Shootings In U.S. History,” seven of those shootings were committed by young males since 2005. Of the seven, only one—Virginia Tech shooter Seung-Hui Cho—was raised by his biological father throughout childhood.”
Life for Nikolas Cruz was no different. His adoptive father died when Cruz was very young, and
his adoptive mother had a difficult time raising him.
America’s boys are in serious trouble. As Warren Farrell’s new book,
The Boy Crisis, explains, boys are experiencing a crisis of education, a crisis of mental health (as in the case of Nikolas Cruz), a crisis of purpose. And at the root of it all is fatherlessness.
Indeed, there is a direct correlation between boys who grow up with absent fathers and boys who drop out of school, who drink, who do drugs, who become delinquent and who wind up in prison.
And who
kill their classmates.
“We blame guns, violence in the media, violence in video games, and poor family values. Each is a plausible player,”
Farrell noted in 2013 after the Newtown, Connecticut, shooting. “But our daughters live in the same homes, with the same access to the same guns, video games, and media, and are raised with the same family values. Our daughters are not killing. Our sons are.”
Farrell’s explanation about how masculinity can be a force for good or for evil is enormously instructive. “Without dads as role models, boys’ testosterone is not well channeled. The boy experiences a sense of purposelessness, a lack of boundary enforcement, rudderlessness, and often withdraws into video games and video porn. At worst, when boys’ testosterone is not well-channeled by an involved dad, boys become among the world’s most destructive forces. When boys’ testosterone is well channeled by an involved dad, boys become among the world’s most constructive forces.”
The solution to male violence is not to spout off drivel about the evils of masculinity. Masculinity, channeled well, is the reason assistant football coach Aaron Feis died this week. Feis shielded students from bullets by pushing them inside a classroom.
The same instinctual response occurred at an Aurora, Colorado, movie theatre in 2012, when
three young men— Jon Blunk, Matt McQuinn and Alex Teves—died shielding their girlfriends.
To be sure, there will be those who’ll continue to blame masculinity and the NRA for the recent bout of school shootings. But amidst their chatter are voices of reason who know all too well, either from first-hand experience or because they’re simply paying attention, that the reason boys are broken goes far deeper than policies and politics—and requires us to look at things we’d rather not.
That’s hard. But harder still is waking up to the deaths of yet more innocent children. How many kids will have to die before we get it?
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Comment:
So from whence cometh my title?
"And every spirit that confesseth not that Jesus Christ is come in the flesh is not of God: and this is that spirit of antichrist, whereof ye have heard that it should come; and even now already is it in the world." 1 John 4:3
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