Young Person ...Which Is Preferable In A Wife, Husband or Friend?

Common Sense Commentary: Let's say there are three levels of choice when choosing a wife, husband or friend ... Beauty, Personality and Holiness. Beauty appeals to the eyes and to the lust of the flesh.  Personality appeals to the mind or human spirit. Holiness appeals to the eternal soul... of a Christian, that is. So, which is most important in choosing a wife, husband or friend? When we are young, we most often choose beauty. When We begin to mature, we most often choose personality. When we are fully mature, as a Christian, we will choose holiness. Since it is impossible to see or know what changes will develop in a young person, as they grow up and older, how can we make life-long best choices in girlfriends or boyfriends ... one of which will probably become a life partner?  I think every young person should embed, in their mind and soul, their minimal priorities in every friend they allow into their hearts. Priority number one should be, choose as your friends those young people who,  obviously, by your observation not their claims,  those who are already sincerely seeking God's will and purpose for their lives.  Christianity is often counterfeited. Priority number two should not be who do you think you love. Infatuation is nearly always mistaken for love. Young love is too quick to blossom. It is too indefinite, too subjective, so choose among those you really like, enjoy being around and who are a consistent, good influence. Look for those who qualify to be friends not lovers. Then, time and the Holy Spirit, if you are a Christian, will reveal to you which of your good friends, if any, is a possible life-time mate. I emphasize "time" and the "Holy Spirit". Let time and the Holy Spirit bring you to an understanding of God's will for your precious life. The whole truth does not reveal itself quickly. The passage of time and the Holy Spirit will, in God's own time, guide you into the truth about God's will for the rest of your life. God will guide you if you are walking with Him.... and listening. "Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth." John 16:13. He does that through the word of God.  God's choices, of your friends, will never ask you to do something sinful but will be a good influence and a strength to your life and your Christian testimony. This is one of the surest  indications of which friends He (God) disapproves of, for you, or which will be a moral strength to you. Do not trust a boy or girl who tries to get you to disobey God's word or your parents.  God put them there for your benefit. And don't be in a hurry to know God's will in the right choice. Let God make the choice for you and you will not go wrong when you commit to it. "Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the LORD." Psm.27:14. RB